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    <title>The Unstuck Edit</title>
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      <title>Decision Fatigue: The Hidden Reason You’re Stuck</title>
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           (And how to find your way back)
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           If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, foggy, indecisive, or strangely irritated by the tiniest choices, you might be experiencing decision fatigue. And the truth is — most of us are, whether we realise it or not.
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           We make thousands of decisions a day. Some are big and life-shaping. Others are tiny, like what to have for dinner or whether to reply to that message. But when your nervous system is overloaded, even the smallest decision can feel like a mountain.
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           As I shared in this week’s episode of The Unstuck Edit, decision fatigue shows up in sneaky ways:
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            Procrastinating over tiny choices
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            Feeling like everything is equally urgent
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            Avoiding decisions altogether
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            Making impulsive choices you later regret
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            Becoming emotionally reactive
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            Second-guessing yourself
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            Losing creativity
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           One line from the transcript sums it up perfectly:
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           “Decision fatigue isn’t simply about making loads and loads of choices — it’s about making choices while carrying uncertainty, responsibility, emotional weights.”
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           And when your nervous system is strained, even deciding what to eat can feel like too much.
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           Why This Matters
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           Decision fatigue keeps you stuck. It keeps you looping. It keeps you overwhelmed. And it disconnects you from your intuition — the part of you that already knows what you need.
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           How to Recover
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           Here are some of the tools I shared:
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            Create defaults:
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             e.g.
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            capsule wardrobe, set meals, fixed workout days
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            Decide once: 
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            e.g., “I exercise Mon/Wed/Fri” instead of asking daily
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            Reduce options: 
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            choose between two instead of ten
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            Separate thinking from doing: 
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            weekly CEO hour
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            Interrupt perfectionism: 
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            ask: “Will this matter in six months?”
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            Regulate your nervous system:
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             breathwork, embodiment, nature, movement
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            Tune into your body: 
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            expansion vs contraction, body compass, intuitive yes/no.  Your body knows before your brain does. When you create space, clarity returns.
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           Journal Prompts
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            Where in my life am I procrastinating over tiny decisions?
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            What decisions could I “decide once” to reduce daily mental load?
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            What does my body feel like when something is a yes? What does it feel like when it’s a no?
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           Want deeper support?
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           Join my free Unstuck community where we explore embodiment, intuition, and getting unstuck together.   You'll also find the free workbook I've created to anyone feeling Decision Fatigue reset.
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      <title>F*ck Playing It Safe</title>
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      <description>If you change your mindset and your response to what’s happening in your life, you create the possibility for a different outcome.</description>
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           The beliefs underneath the life you're living
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           This week’s episode of The Unstuck Edit podcast edition (over on You Tube / Spotify) ended up being a bit of a talking-to. To myself, mostly. But if you’re reading this, there’s a decent chance some of it might be for you too.
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           It started because I was doing something wildly sexy: updating my business plan.
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           Now, before your eyes glaze over, hear me out. My business plan isn’t one of those dry documents you create for a bank manager and then never look at again. It’s actually a really useful anchor. It helps me set out what I want, why I want it, and how I want to feel while I’m building it. It’s a bit compass, bit mirror, bit kick up the bum.
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           And as I was rereading the section on my why, I noticed that I’d listed out a number of the beliefs that underpin my work. The beliefs that shape how I show up, what I want to create, what I value, what lights me up, and what I want to help other people move through.
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           And I had one of those slightly uncomfortable moments where I realised: I don’t actually talk about these beliefs publicly all that much.
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           Not because they aren’t true or I’m being fake. But because I’ve probably been giving people a slightly diluted version of me.
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           A perfectly nice, helpful, useful version. A version that offers support and tools and encouragement. But maybe not always the fuller truth of why I care so deeply about the things I care about.
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           The helpful version of me versus the whole version of me
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           I think I’ve often stayed in the “here’s something that might help you” lane rather than the “here’s what I actually believe” lane.
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           And if I’m honest, that’s because sharing beliefs can feel vulnerable.
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           When you put your values and worldview out there, there’s always the risk that someone won’t get it. Won’t agree. Will misunderstand. Will judge. Sometimes the fear isn’t even strangers on the internet, it’s people who know you in real life. People who knew an older version of you. People who have a fixed idea of who you’re supposed to be.
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           So it can feel safer to stay polished. Helpful. Palatable. Less specific.
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           But I don’t think that’s where the good stuff lives.
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           What do you actually believe?
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           A lot of our beliefs aren’t consciously chosen. They’re inherited from parents, school, religion, culture, relationships, workplaces, friendship groups, the town you grew up in. The stories you absorbed when you were too young to question them. We pick things up, internalise them, repeat them and we build lives around them.
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           And sometimes we don’t stop to ask the very important question:
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           Do I actually believe this?
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           Or is this just something I’ve been handed?
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           That’s been a big part of my own work over the past several years, really since around 2017 when I first did Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map. That process was a catalyst for a lot of what came next. It got me thinking about my core desired feelings and how I wanted my life to feel, not just what it looked like from the outside.
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           Mine were:
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            Bliss
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            Passion
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            Lioness
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           And honestly, those words still tell me a lot about myself.
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           I value loyalty deeply. I value passion, in other people as well as myself. I’m drawn to people who care about something, who have a fire in them, who show up with conviction and heart. I don’t need everyone to agree with me, but I do value people who know what they stand for.
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           That matters because our beliefs and values shape everything:
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            how we make decisions
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            what we tolerate
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            what we settle for
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            what we call “normal”
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            who we trust
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            where we spend our time
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            what we think we’re worthy of receiving
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           If you feel stuck in your life, there’s a good chance your beliefs are somewhere in the room.
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           The shift that changed everything for me
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           One of the core beliefs that sits underneath my work is this:
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           If you change your mindset and your response to what’s happening in your life, you create the possibility for a different outcome.
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           That doesn’t mean toxic positivity. Or pretending awful things are lovely gifts in disguise. And it doesn’t mean I believe we cause every bad thing that happens to us.
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           It means I believe in agency, perspective. I believe in asking better questions.
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           When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2019, I had a choice. Not over the diagnosis itself, obviously. Not over the biology of what was happening in my body. But over how I was going to relate to it, to deal with it and everything that it meant.
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           I could stay in why is this happening to me? Or I could experiment with a different question: What if this is happening for me?
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           Now, I want to be very clear here, because this matters. I am not saying I caused my cancer. I am not saying illness is a manifestation failure or some spiritual punishment or a lesson neatly gift-wrapped by the universe. Bodies are complex. Biology is complex. Life is complex.
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           What I am saying is that shifting from ‘to me’ to ‘for me’ changed the way I moved through it. It shifted me out of helplessness, fear, anger and into curiosity, opportunity, leadership.
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           It helped me ask:
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            What is this showing me?
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            What is no longer working in my life?
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            What do I want to do with the fact that I’m still here?
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            What would it look like to stop settling?
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           Cancer was a brutal wake-up call. A bitch slap, if we’re being honest. A reminder that life is precious and finite and not something I wanted to keep sleepwalking through.
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           I often talk about the idea of the B+ life. The life that’s… fine. Good, even. Comfortable enough. Tolerable. Respectable. A life that looks perfectly acceptable on paper but doesn’t feel like your full life when you’re alone with yourself.
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           I had a B+ life.
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           Not a terrible life. Not a tragic life. Just a life that wasn’t the truest expression of me.
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           And after cancer, I couldn’t unknow that.
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           The danger of only doing the outer work
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           This is also why I’ve always found myself dancing around the edges of style work, confidence work, embodiment work, mindset work, Human Design, ritual, ceremony, all of it. Because in my mind, they all belong in the same ecosystem.
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           I’m a stylist, yes. And I’m a bloody good one, actually.
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           I can see people. I can help them find what works. I can help them understand their shape, their energy, their presence, their style.
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           But I’ve never wanted to stop at the outer layer.
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           Because if you change the clothes without changing the relationship you have with yourself, there’s a ceiling. You might feel better for a while, and that matters, but if the inner beliefs are still whispering that you’re too much, not enough, too old, too broken, too visible, too risky, too selfish, too late… then the confidence won’t fully land.
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           The outer work can support the inner work beautifully.
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           But it can’t replace it.
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           That’s why I care so much about the deeper stuff.
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           The part where I tell on myself
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           Here’s one of the more revealing things I realised while talking about all of this:
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           In my business plan, I describe myself as a ceremonialist.
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           But on my website, I mostly call myself a celebrant.
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           Now, there’s nothing wrong with the word celebrant. It’s a useful word. A familiar word. A word people understand. But if I’m being truthful, ceremonialist is the word that lights me up. It’s the one that feels truest to the work I do and the energy I bring. It holds the ritual, the reverence, the meaning-making, the transition, the transformation.
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           So why haven’t I owned it more publicly? Because, quite simply, it feels safer to use the more recognisable label. And there it is again: playing small in the name of being understandable. Which is why this whole episode ended up becoming a bit of a rallying cry to myself.
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           Fuck playing it safe.
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           Not in a reckless, consequences-don’t-matter kind of way.
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           But in a stop-dimming-yourself-to-be-digestible kind of way.
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           In a stop-editing-the-truth-of-who-you-are-before-anyone’s-even-asked-you-to kind of way.
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           Maybe this is your invitation too
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           If you’re in a season where you feel stuck, flat, restless, or quietly dissatisfied, I want to offer you a few questions to ask yourself. Not because I have all the answers. But because I think these are good places to begin:
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            What do I actually believe?
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            Which of my values are truly mine, and which ones have been inherited?
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            Where am I living a B+ life because it feels safer than risking the A+ one?
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            What am I making myself smaller for?
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            What would change if I trusted my own voice a little more?
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            What if this thing I’m resisting contains an invitation?
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           You do not need to have it all figured out to begin. You do not need to become a brand new person overnight. You do not need to be fearless.
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           But I do think there’s power in telling the truth, in naming what matters and paying attention to what your life, your body and your intuition are trying to tell you.
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           In letting your values become a compass instead of a nice idea.
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           And if you need someone to help you sort through the tangle, to listen, to reflect things back, to help you move from stuck to clearer, truer, braver, more you… you know where I am.
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           I’m still figuring parts of this out too.
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           Still unlearning.
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           Still practising.
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           Still catching myself in the act of trying to be more palatable than necessary.
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           But this week, at least, I’m choosing honesty over dilution.
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           And that feels like a decent place to begin.
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           If this resonated, I’d love to know: what’s one belief or value you’re being invited to look at right now?
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           Until the next time pals, stay in the light.
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           Gx
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      <title>The Week My Plans Went Pear Shaped</title>
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           And what it taught me about feeling grounded
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           I disappeared for a week. Not intentionally or in a someone kidnapped me kind of way. Life simply had other ideas than what was on my to-do list!
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           It started with my dog becoming poorly. If you’ve ever cared for an unwell animal (or child), you’ll know there’s something about those middle-of-the-night trips into the garden, standing in your pyjamas in the early hours, and operating on only a few hours of sleep. Sleep became a luxury and my productivity disappeared.
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           Then came a hospital appointment in Edinburgh as part of the medical trial I’m still involved in following cancer treatment. It was actually a lovely day because I caught up with my wonderful friend Sandra, but by the time I came home I was already mentally rearranging everything I’d hoped to get done because the wifi signal on the train is RU-BISH.
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           Then my parents arrived earlier than expected to look after the dog while Bob and I escaped for a few days away. There was another 3 hours lost.
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           The carefully planned week of bossing my business, making progress on my to-do list and creating traction in my membership went in the bin with far too many poo bags (iykyk).
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           Suddenly there wasn’t enough time for any of it.
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           Or so I thought.
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            Funny how life has a way of teaching exactly what we most need to remember. During this week of having to scrap everything I’d planned, the reminder that
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           the only constant in life is change itself
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            came across my social feed. Timely indeed.
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           One of the things I’ve been exploring recently in my Unstuck Embodiment sessions is grounding. Not the Instagram version with perfectly positioned crystals and aesthetic barefoot photographs. The real version that your nervous system understands - the one that says:
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            “I am here.”
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            “I am safe.”
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            “I can deal with one thing at a time.”
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           I’ve realised that when I’m grounded, I speak to myself differently. Instead of criticising myself because something isn’t perfect, I become curious. What can I learn here? What if this is simply an experiment? What if good enough really is good enough today?  Curiosity is surprisingly compassionate. It creates space for learning instead of judgement. And boy, did I lean on this last week!
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           The more I work with people, the more I notice that feeling “stuck” often isn’t because we don’t know what to do. It’s because our nervous system is quietly convinced we’re not safe. Safe enough to slow down, to rest, to make a decision, to begin what your heart is calling for.
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           Grounding isn’t about controlling life. It’s about creating enough steadiness inside ourselves that we don’t need life to be perfectly controlled.
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           Some days grounding looks like breathwork. Some days it looks like placing your hands on your body and remembering you’re here. Some days it looks like walking without headphones and really noticing your feet meeting the earth. And, some days it looks like hugging a tree (I’m a wholehearted advocate of tree hugs).
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           What I do know is this:
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            The weeks when life falls apart are often the weeks that reveal which practices actually support us.
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           Anyone can feel calm when everything is going according to plan. The real practice begins when the plan disappears.
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           So this week I’d love to leave you with a few journaling questions that I shared in The Unstuck Embodiment membership to support integration of a grounding somatic practice:
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           ✨ Where in your life do you currently feel most grounded?
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           ✨ What drives your actions right now: fear, desire, necessity or something else?
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           ✨ What are you avoiding because you don’t yet feel safe enough?
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           ✨ What grounding ritual could you commit to for the next seven days?
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           The last one is particularly juicy because tiny rituals repeated consistently have a wonderful habit of changing much bigger things than we first imagine.
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            Let me know how you get on. If you feel like learning more about grounding, you can watch the full episode of The Unstuck Edit on
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           YouTube
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            or on
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    &lt;a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/0qk348d4SzRAeuH99eH16N?si=Aj2_ZGhsRe-pwTV8aOyCMg" target="_blank"&gt;&#xD;
      
           Spotify
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            . I’d love you to join me on the mat where I can support you coming back to your body, releasing any stuck emotions or energy, and connecting to your intuition and clarity. You can find out more
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           here.
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           Until next time pals, stay in the light.
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           Gail x
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           PS - If this has resonated with you, please do drop me an email and let me know.
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      <pubDate>Mon, 06 Jul 2026 15:59:59 GMT</pubDate>
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      <title>How to build confidence</title>
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           Is your style sabotaging you?
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           There’s a moment many women experience.  You catch yourself in the mirror and and something feels off.  Not wrong, exactly. Just… unfamiliar. Like you’ve drifted away from yourself.
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           And most people respond to that feeling by doing more. More goals. More plans. More action.
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           But what if the problem isn’t action?
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            What if it’s
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           misalignment
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           ?
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           The Quiet Mismatch
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           We spend so much time trying to “move forward” without ever asking:
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           Does how I show up externally actually match who I am internally?
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           Because when there’s a disconnect between the two, it creates friction.
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            You second guess yourself
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            You feel flat, even when things are “fine”
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            You lose confidence without understanding why
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            Your style becomes a costume.
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            Your energy becomes diluted.
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           And the world responds accordingly.
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           Confidence Isn’t What You Think
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            I believe that confidence isn’t something you either have or don’t. It’s something you
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           build
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            and have to work at. Not through affirmations alone, but through reinforcement and the way you:
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            speak to yourself
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            care for yourself
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            present yourself
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           Because every day, in small ways, you’re either saying:
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           “I matter”
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           or
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           “I don’t really count today”
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           And often, it’s your wardrobe making that decision for you.
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           The Audit Most People Avoid
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           Before you change anything, you need honesty. Not harshness or self-criticism. Just clean, grounded truth.
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           Take a piece of paper and split it in two:
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           Left side:
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           What am I grateful for (about my body &amp;amp; style) and why?
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           Right side:
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           What isn’t working and why?
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           This is where the real insight lives. Not in “fixing” yourself, but in understanding yourself.
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           Your Style Is Speaking (Even When You’re Not)
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           Whether you realise it or not, your appearance is communicating:
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            How you feel about yourself
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            How you expect to be treated
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            Whether you feel safe to be seen
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            And here’s the truth most people don’t say out loud:
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           People are making decisions about you before you speak.
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            Not because they’re shallow, because they’re human.  So the real question becomes:
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           Are you shaping that message intentionally?
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           Rebuilding Your Signature Style
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            This is where things shift. Not by following trends or by dressing “correctly.” Instead, you define your
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           own language of expression.
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           A Practical Starting Point
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           Before investing in new clothes or rebranding your image, start here:
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            Audit what’s working and what isn’t
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            Identify how your current appearance is perceived
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            Define how you want to be perceived
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             Then distil this into 3–6 words that represent your
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            signature style
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            . This becomes your decision-making framework. Your inner compass.
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           Your daily check-in: “Does this feel like me?”
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           The Version of You That Already Exists
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           Here’s the beautiful part, you don’t need to become someone new with this, it is remembering someone you already were.
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           Maybe the version of you who once felt:
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            bold
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            expressive
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            playful
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            powerful
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           She didn’t disappear.  She just got buried under expectations, conditioning and practicality.
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           Final Thought
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            You don’t get unstuck by doing more. You get unstuck by becoming
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           clearer
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           .
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           Clearer on who you are.
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           Clearer on how you want to show up.
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           Clearer on what you’re no longer available for.
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            And from that place? 
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           Action becomes effortless.
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           I’d love to hear from you:
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            What is your signature style?
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            What does your style / image say about you - to the world and to yourself?
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            Does your style, energy and body language communicate what you want it to?
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           Until next time, stay in the light, pal.
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           Gx
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            PS - my weekly embodiment classes are a great tool to help you come back to yourself and remember who you are while building your confidence. You can find out more information and book
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           Tips for more self-love and body confidence
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           Love the skin you're in
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           February is the month of love.  And, what better way to celebrate love than to talk about self-love?  Whether you're attached or single, loving yourself should be a non-negotiable.  But it's not as simple as that, is it.    I think every woman I know or client I've worked with has some sort of hang-up about themselves.  For some it's small and others it is massive.   I'm no stranger to a hang up or twenty and over the years, I'd say they've evolved and changed as I've done healing work, or entered a new phase in my life.  Your self-love can change and adapt, it can grow and shrink and you can change it.
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           Five ways to build confidence
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            So how do you love the skin you're in?  Well, here are five things you can do to love yourself and build confidence:
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            List five things you like or love about yourself and pin it somewhere visible or make it your phone wallpaper so you can see it everyday and remind yourself of your amazingness.
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            Wear an outfit that you'd normally save for "best" at least one day this month, even if you're at home.  Take time to connect to how it makes you feel.  You can have this feeling every day when you wear what you love.
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             This one is a biggie, and can be tough.  Take all your clothes off and look at yourself in the mirror and say "I love you".  This may bring up a heap of emotion and you might find a lot of resistance to it.  If you want to start small, stay dressed and say it.  Work up to fully embracing all your gorgeousness.
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            Write down 3 words or phrases that describe your signature style or how you'd like to feel in your clothes and stick in on the inside of your wardrobe or next to where you get dressed so you can check in every day as to whether your outfit is on brand or making you feel how you want.
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            Edit your wardrobe and remove anything that doesn't fit, you don't wear or isn't you any more.  Clearing physical space will also create emotional space for you to move forward with our style, and build confidence.
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           You got this
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           When you spend time building your confidence and loving yourself has a much bigger impact on your life that just the clothes you wear.  I'm not going to sugar coat it - some of this is difficult, but it is really worth it.  And you are worth spending the time on it.  Figuring out your signature style can be great fun and really creative.  And using your colours and body shape can be useful frameworks to help you get started and try new or different things.
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            Engaging the services of a personal stylist / image consultant / body &amp;amp; style consultant is something to consider to help you get the signature style or wardrobe or life you want.  It's like paying for a personal trainer or fitness classes or weight management classes.  And a big act of self-care showing that you matter to yourself.  Like investments in other areas of personal and physical development, stylists will help you achieve your goals quicker and likely save you money in the long run. 
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            A final thought on self-love before I go.  In 2021, (and recently divorced and single) I did 'self-love February' where I did one act of self-love a day and I posted on Insta.  Things I did ranged from taking a proper lunch break to reading a book to gifting flowers to my mum to meditating and writing gratitude lists to just having a shower and getting dressed with care.  It made me realise that acts of self-care and self-love don't need to be big, but it can be taking pleasure in the little things.  Just stopping to ask myself what was one thing I could do that day so show myself that I am important was a revelation.  And it really helped me at a time when I felt alone. 
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      <pubDate>Wed, 14 Feb 2024 14:25:00 GMT</pubDate>
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      <description>Could shoulder pads be your new style secret?  They are a great tool to change your silhouette and boost confidence.</description>
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           Could this cheap and easy style tip be your new bff?
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           Are you sure, Gail.... Shoulder Pads?
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            The shoulder pad has had a bit of a bad reputation as an 80s throwback.  But it could be your new best friend.   There are lost of tops and jackets about just now that have shoulder pads in them. 
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           But you can buy then standalone to add into anything you want or to boost what is already there!
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           Create a new silhouette
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            Shoulder pads are the solution to many body problems that we all encounter because they create shape. Nowadays, you can get shoulder pads in different styles and shapes so they work for your shape and your style.
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           Shoulder pads can do the following:
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            Make you look slimmer - by strengthening the shoulder line you balance out any lower body fullness. *Great if you're a triangle or pear shaped goddess.
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            Broaden narrow shoulders or straighten sloping shoulders – play around with size and shape of the shoulder pad so you find one that creates a balanced (or hourglass) silhouette. This can also make you look like you’ve got excellent posture!
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            If you’d like to look shorter, use a bigger shoulder pad to create a strong horizontal line across the shoulder. Creating horizontal lines stops the eye going up and down (which would emphasis your height).
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            If you’re seeking to look bigger, add shoulder pads to your layers or bulky fabrics to look more shapely or heavier.
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            Create a signature style - it's all about the shoulders!
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           Have fun with it
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           Moreover, with removable ones, you can play around with them in your clothes and see how you can change the look of something just by adding the shoulder pads – suddenly feels like you have a lot more looks available from the same number of clothes!
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            If you're blessed with a strong shoulder, shoulder pads may not be for you as it will make your shoulders look broader.  If that's what you're going for, then work it! 
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           You can still use a small pad to balance out any sloping shoulders though.
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            You can buy shoulder pads at most haberdasheries or search online.  Also,
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            has a great range.  Remember to look for how they will fasten to the garment, your skin or your bra.
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            You can also check out my video on TikTok showing you the pads and talking this through, as well as other video blogs -
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           Until next time friends.  Let me know if you tried this out, if it helped and how it made you feel.
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      <pubDate>Thu, 08 Feb 2024 16:41:39 GMT</pubDate>
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           It's been one heck of a journey, but I'm still here and excited to tell you a bit about me and what I am passionate about.
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           Well hello there.
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           I'm Gail. 
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            Although if you're here, you probably already know that. 
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           I had a blog a while ago when I had my womenswear boutique and I loved sharing tip and observations or latest trends to help my clients.  I do share some content over on my socials and TikTok, but I've recently re-discovered my joy of writing.  So, I thought I'd figure out the tech on this website platform and get the blog up and running again.
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           My business
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           So I have two pillars or sides to my business.  Firstly, I'm a body and style consultant and I help people find their body bliss.  I'm particularly focused on helping people after life changing events and even more specifically, those who have or have had cancer.  Having been through it myself I understand what it's like and have real experience of what it's like to get your body and style confidence back.
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           The second pillar to my business is that I'm a celebrant.  This is a recent addition since finishing my training in December 2023.  I felt called to work in the space after my cancer experience - it made me comfortable with death and also made me realise how we don't talk about it or that it can be scary.  So I want to de-mystify some of this, but also bring people's story to life in eulogies.   Now, I am a MASSIVE romantic and all for love (even though I'm divorced and had ups and downs dating) so I wanted some ying to the yang of funerals, so I am also a wedding celebrant.  I can legally marry couples in Scotland.  Honestly, curating ceremonies is a magical experience, listening to people and learning about them, their loved ones and all the experiences that make them unique.
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            I'll share more on these over time.  I've now written and led 3 funerals.  Massively nerve-wracking initially, but unbelievably rewarding. 
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           I have always had an interest in fashion, styling, individuality in this space.  And, I've experienced judgement and confidence knocks.  I have hidden away and spent a long time working on my own confidence and style.  I'm passionate about helping people present themselves to the world in a way that is truly a reflection of who they are.  I also love how our style or image can be creative and fun.  And, when we step out into the world in a confident, self-loving place, people shine and give off an amazing blissful energy. I want everyone to be able to be in that place, including myself. 
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           Becoming a celebrant was a natural progression for me because I am a big believer in using rituals or ceremonies to mark occasions (big and small) in our lives.   
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           To some people it may seem odd having these different strands to my business but to me they are linked - I am supporting people through change and creating a space where they are seen and heard. And, I use ceremony and rituals working with my Body Bliss clients to celebrate what they have achieved.
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           Bliss, passion and lioness are my core feelings or my north star - I want to feel like this in all areas of my life.  I've used these for years to set my goals from and they have supported me through career changes, taking leaps of faith, divorce, cancer, moving home, boundary setting and trying new hobbies.   I want to help people feel this way as well.  I'll share a bit more about where these come from and how you can figure out your core feelings or values to help you make decisions in your life.
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           Thanks for stopping by.  Please do email or message me if you've any questions or things you'd like more information on.  2024 is also about feeling empowered, connection and celebrated for me, you and all of us.  So let's connect :)
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